Husband material.

Just came back from Korea yesterday night! I originally planned to blog during our trip, but I grossly under-estimated how busy we would be.

I suppose I could delve right into pictures from our trip, but I am going to do a quick post about 2 incidents recently that make me feel THAT much luckier for the boy! :)

1. The day before we flew off to Korea, I put extra care and thought into making dinner for the boy. Reasons being: 1) it's the last dinner I am cooking for him before my trip, 2) he was having a terrible sore throat, so I have to prepare something non-heaty and comforting. However, I was also really busy as I need to finish work before flying off, and I haven't even packed, so I decided to make a steamed egg and steam tofu with vegetables-- easy peasy, and doesn't require much work from me, right? Well, the only flaw in the plan is that I have never steamed anything in my life wtf.

I started cooking late 'cause he had to work late, but at 9pm when he was leaving office, I still wasn't done with cooking dinner!!! The damn food just wouldn't steam properly-- 1 hour down and the tofu was STILL steaming!! -_- The boy called me on his way home to find me almost in tears wtf-- the stress of a failed dinner, and my huge pile of work AND packing for a week was getting to me. However, he came home and lightly pushed me to change, and started cleaning up the kitchen. "We are going out to eat dinner. Cooking is not supposed to stressful. Friday nights are not supposed to be stressful!", he told me. Turns out he bought premium tickets for a late night movie (Captain America), and he was determined to cheer me up again. I am so grateful for that, 'cause obviously he had a long hard day himself, but still he put my happiness above everything else. :)

2. On our 3rd day in Korea, we received a call from my mom's best friend. Turns out my grandpa fell down in our living room, and he started vomiting and feeling unwell after that. This is obviously a cause for worry, 'cause vomiting is a sign of internal injury, and my grandpa is 85 years old! :(  My mom's best friend helped to admit him into A&E, and he was to stay there till we were back.

When I told the boy, he immediately planned to leave work early to visit my grandpa. He started asking me what are my grandpa's favorite food (though he remembers that it's vinegar pork trotter), and bought fruits and newspapers for him. He also suggested to Facetime us when he is with my grandpa so that we could see him and talk to him. In fact, on that night he was with my grandpa from 7pm till almost 11pm to accompany my grandma who was visiting as well, and fed my grandpa fish porridge (that he bought). On  the second day, he fetched my grandma to visit, and stayed the night at my place as our maid stayed back at the hospital to take care of my grandpa. Now he is the apple of my grandparents' eyes, and they wouldn't stop gushing about him LOL.

Jokes aside, I feel really blessed because all of these gestures are done from his own initiative, and I feel so touched that he cares so much for my family!

I just wanted to jot these stories down here so that I can read them when I am mad at the boy WTF. Haha, no la, just want to remind myself that I am so lucky that I be marrying someone who loves me so immensely, and that I must never, ever take him for granted. :)

Window panes.

Just a quick post today! Have about a hundred and one things to settle before flying off tomorrow to Korea with the family for a short holiday.

Biggest thing that happened to me this week-- I lost my phone. T______T

More accurately, my phone was stolen. We were in KLCC, and on the way back, I realized my phone was gone ARGHHH. It's not possible to have dropped out of my bag as my bag is pretty deep, so it's confirmed stolen. You fucking thief, I hope you get raped by fleas-infested apes.

I tried to comfort myself that I am due to change to a new phone this year anyway, as my old phone is starting to give me problems. Also tried to reassure myself that at least the thief took my phone, and not our wedding bands which we picked up on the same day.

Anyway, on to happier things!

I love my boyfriend. He suggested to me recently that we should bring my grandparents to Yut Kee in KL as they used to stay around that area. He just thinks it would be really interesting and meaningful for them. So I thought that today would be great as Jing is back too.


Happy grandparents! The boy purposely drove around KL so that they can reminisce about the place, and they were so cute, kept on commenting on how different things are now, and telling us little anecdotes about their past.


Unintentionally matched my dress to the old school window panes in Yut Kee. :P


Digging in!

The boy insisted that he will treat us, and he actually budgeted about RM per pax. He wryly commented that only the Hoe family will eat RM200 worth at a kopitiam HAHAHA.


Forgot to take a photo with our grandparents! T_____T At least we have with our grandma while queuing for a table.

Outfit:




Patchwork print dress: AZORIAS
Butterfly statement necklace: Bangkok
Black suede ankle-strapped wedges: Zara
Bag: Dior

All in all, I feel really blessed that the boy thought of this little nice gesture for my grandparents, and actually took action to make it happen (driving all of us us there, paying for the meal, showing parts of KL to my grandparents...). The epitome of love is when you not only care about your other half, but the loved ones of your other half too! :D

Wedding planning: Part 1.

Yay today I am going to update about my wedding! It'll be in early July, and I only dare to properly update now 'cause... before this I really didn't have much planned or confirmed hahaha.

I am quite a girlie girl-- loves shoes, high teas and the color pink, but surprisingly all my life I have never given any thought to my wedding!!! I have never fantasized about my wedding dress, or my engagement ring, or what theme I want my wedding to have. So when it comes to getting down and dirty for the wedding, suddenly I found that I need to reach very deep into my soul wtf to find out what I would want for our wedding.

Also, to be honest, once we confirmed our venue, I started to chill la. 'Cause that is the most crucial part, everyone told me! So once we paid our deposit, I sat back and relaxed wtf. Then I realized that friends who are getting married later than us already did their 'Save the Date'. And some even already have the programme for the day itself! :O

Really scared the shit out of me. 'Cause is it just me, or is it true that a new bride-to-be will really have NO IDEA where to start? Thank god for Pinterest in my wedding-planning! It really helps to open my eyes to the norms of a wedding ('cause I really have no idea wan), as well as how I could break the rules a little. :P The problem though is that it's hard to trace the vendors on Pinterest, 'cause most of them are based overseas. Thus, a huge help to me was www.wedding.com.my, which has a similar platform to Pinterest, but is Malaysia-based! I couldn't find any good wedding directories initially, so bless my best friend, R (who got married last week, YAY!), who recommended me to www.wedding.com.my.

Anyway, I think now we have got the main portions of the wedding confirmed! Running through the list now to see whether I forgot anything...

 1. Venue

This was the most difficult part, but yay it's the first thing we ticked off the checklist hehe. Blogged about it here.



Everytime I look at pictures of our wedding venue, I feel my heart flutters a bit hehe. A bit nervous that guests will feel hot or it rains (*touch wood*), but hopefully having it in the morning will prevent these problems!

2. Theme

We don't really have a NAME for our theme, but I am imagining something rustic and unfinished, and slightly whimsical? We will leave the elegant stuff for the wedding dinner next year, haha. Most importantly, we really want to play to the strengths of the lush greenery and let the surrounding nature shine through. :)

3. Wedding planner

I was going back and forth on this one-- 'cause I do have flexible working hours, so do I really need a planner? But in the end, I decided we should get one. Mainly for decorations and on-the-day coordination, 'cause I can't really help with decorations as it's a morning event, and I don't really want to bog down my bridesmaids with coordination stuff on the actual day.

4. Bridesmaids

This one was a tough one.... I have so many girlfriends that I love dearly, and I would love for them to be a part of my wedding! Unfortunately though, our ceremony will be a small, intimate event, so if I have my girlfriends as my bridesmaids, I won't have any guests left WTF. So my bridesmaids will be my sisters-- Jing, Teeny, and my future sister-in-law. :)

5. Groomsmen/ ring-bearer

This is obviously the boys' responsibility, but one of the boys is extra, extra special to me.

Meet our ring-bearer:



HEHEHE. Yes, Rocky is going to be at our wedding! That is one of the reasons why it was SO DIFFICULT to find a wedding venue, because most places are not pet friendly! I just thought it will be very meaningful to have him there, because we will be starting our lives together as a family on that day hehe.

Now we just need to train him to carry the rings properly wtf!

6. Photographer

This was also a toughie. I am not a huge fan of a lot of the photographers' work that I came across. Somehow they seemed very fake and dramatic, or comes with super harsh lighting? Why can't all photographers do work like what I see on Style Me Pretty, le sigh. But by some stroke of luck (actually huge thanks to Teeny, who has been sending me links of wedding vendors that she think I will like), I found someone whom I really, really like! Showed his portfolio to the fiance, and he have a big thumbs up too, phew. BOOKED!

7. Videographer

I was quite shocked to discover how much videographers charge. T_T Actually, scratch that, I was shocked at how much ALL wedding vendors charge wtf. I should have gone into the bridal industry WTF.

The boy asked me whether we can do without videography, since we already have a photographer. But a huge part of me really wants a video of our vow-exchange, 'cause I feel that it is the most momentous and significant part of a wedding. So I posted on my Dayre and asked you guys whether or not I should get a videographer, and many of you replied YES! In fact, someone commented that her children love to watch their wedding video. :P I told the boy about these feedback, and he was like, "Of course la, all your readers are girls", hahaha.

Anyway, I did some reading online (Vogue forum for brides haha), and there was this thread called "Biggest regrets of brides". And it seems that the biggest regret for most brides is not getting a videographer! So I decided to bite the bullet and book one, 'cause we mustn't live with regrets WTF.

It wasn't easy also to find someone whose work that I like! I cannot stand cheesy videos, like if you want me to run my hands over the boy's chest and drop slow-mo butterfly kisses across his face wtf. Or have us running in the forest for 3 minutes, laughing at nothing wtf. I CANNOT DEAL.

Luckily I found someone whom I like! :D But will still caution him about the slow-mo kisses wtf.

8. Wedding dress

This was the absolute last thing on my priority list (told you I haven't given any thought to my wedding dress), but it is the FIRST thing that all girlfriends ask me about! Apparently it's 'cause I am a 'fashion' person, so everyone is really curious about what I am going to wear.

*gulps* No pressure, guys!

Anyway, in the past few months I have started daydreaming a little on what I would like to wear on that day, and slowly I am piecing together an image. Instead of donning a off-the-rack dress (I always thought there is a slight chance I would be wearing Vera Wang on my wedding day T_T), I am going to custom make mine! :)



I have gone for some fittings, so we know what silhouette it is going to be already. :) Trying on wedding gowns REALLY hits it home that I am getting MARRIED!! And it really does make me bubble in excitement hehe. I am going to be a BRIDE!!! I should have began with trying on wedding gowns right from the start to put me in a wedding-planning mood, haha.

I will blog about my wedding dress fittings in a separate post k! :D

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Anyway, I realized that in the updates above, I kept on saying "I", instead of "We", haha. I really do try to involve the boy in the wedding planning process as much as possible! One day, I sat him down and ask him:

"Baby, what is the most important aspect of the wedding to you? I respect you, I want to focus on the things that matter to you."

You know what was his answer to me?

"That you are happy."

SWOON! I am so lucky to be marrying this guy. :D